Why punishment doesn’t work

“The dominant problem with parenting in our society isn’t permissiveness, but fear of permissiveness.” This idea put forward by Alfie Kohn in his book “Unconditional Parenting” is as valid now as it was when he wrote it in the early 2000’s. He warns against the dangers of over-controlling and punishment. Fear or permissiveness holds us … Continue reading Why punishment doesn’t work

School ready, transitions without tears

Southern hemisphere parents have the triple whammy of transition after summer school holidays. The excitement of Christmas, the longest holiday break and a sharp shock of getting back into the school routine all add to stress levels. Children can have strong feelings about these sorts of transitions. If this is your child you may even … Continue reading School ready, transitions without tears

Getting up is hard to do | on cold, dark mornings

Do you have a hard time getting up in the mornings? Parents and kids can struggle on the cold winter days with bad moods. When you are in a bad mood is it hard to shake? What about your child? Are bad moods making it hard for them to get up and do what they … Continue reading Getting up is hard to do | on cold, dark mornings

Sibling fighting and what you can do about it

Is sibling fighting driving you crazy? Are you sick of being the referee? Most parents are ok with sibling fighting some of the time, but what if it is nearly all of the time? When siblings are always fighting parents need to get involved. Here are FIVE ways to reduce sibling fighting and increase harmony … Continue reading Sibling fighting and what you can do about it