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Why punishment doesn’t work

“The dominant problem with parenting in our society isn’t permissiveness, but fear of permissiveness.” This idea put forward by Alfie Kohn in his book “Unconditional Parenting” is as valid now as it was when he wrote it in the early 2000’s. He warns against the dangers of over-controlling and punishment. Fear or permissiveness holds us … Continue reading Why punishment doesn’t work

School ready, transitions without tears

Southern hemisphere parents have the triple whammy of transition after summer school holidays. The excitement of Christmas, the longest holiday break and a sharp shock of getting back into the school routine all add to stress levels. Children can have strong feelings about these sorts of transitions. If this is your child you may even … Continue reading School ready, transitions without tears

Self-reliant kids do better | how to do less so your kids can do more

Are your kids self-reliant or do you think you are doing too much for them? Would you like to encourage your children to become more self-reliant? A job description looks like this for many parents: Long term, energetic team player needed, for challenging permanent work in a busy and often chaotic environment. Responsibilities include cooking, … Continue reading Self-reliant kids do better | how to do less so your kids can do more