Why punishment doesn’t work

“The dominant problem with parenting in our society isn’t permissiveness, but fear of permissiveness.” This idea put forward by Alfie Kohn in his book “Unconditional Parenting” is as valid now as it was when he wrote it in the early 2000’s. He warns against the dangers of over-controlling and punishment. Fear or permissiveness holds us … Continue reading Why punishment doesn’t work

Help there’s fireworks in my house!

When your child or teen is exploding around your ears the last thing they need is a parent who joins in.  It’s like pouring petrol on a fire.  Parents are well aware of this already but isn’t it just SO HARD to be the flexible, understanding adult some times? Keeping calm when our buttons are … Continue reading Help there’s fireworks in my house!